Interview with Berenice Brito
In this episode, we will uncover 3 keys:
- The Role of Hypnosis and Mindset in Sexual and Personal Rejuvenation
- Empowerment through Self-Acceptance and Body Positivity
- Overcoming Limiting Beliefs and Taboo Around Sexuality
A Podcast Transcription
Episode 48: Harness the Power of Hypnosis to Rejuvenate Your Sexual Energy~Berenice Brito Part 2
Intro
Odiva Vasell: (0:32)
Welcome, my fabulous Fempreneurs! We are here for an energy session with Berenice Brito, and I just want you all to sit back, relax, and enjoy this special gift she’s giving us right now. Welcome, Berenice!
Berenice Brito: (0:54)
Hi! It’s my pleasure to be here with you all. Thank you for having me.
Odiva Vasell: (1:00)
Yes, thank you for joining us! You can take the reins and just guide us on what we should do first.
The Role of Hypnosis and Mindset in Sexual and Personal Rejuvenation
Berenice Brito: (1:10)
Alright, so I have two things planned for today. One is a mini experience of how hypnosis feels. A lot of people haven’t done hypnosis themselves—they’ve heard about it, but they really don’t know what it entails. So, I’m going to do a short experience so you can feel it and understand more about it. It’s brief, but I think you’ll love it. Besides that, I want to teach you how to do an energetic denial clearing. This will help you with the awareness content we talked about in our last session.
We spoke about awareness—knowing what’s going on inside, understanding your thought processes, how you feel, and how your emotions come up. I hope you’ve been doing the exercise of setting an alarm at the same time every day, telling you that it’s time to be with yourself. Five to ten minutes a day is great, but if you want to stretch it to 15 or 20 minutes, that’s amazing. It’s about experiencing and just being with yourself.
Today, we’re going to take it a step further. We’ll do a denial clearing. This involves Meridian points—acupuncture points that have been known for centuries to influence the energy flow in our bodies. It’s simple. Just follow my guidance and keep your eyes open throughout the process because we’re clearing denial, and we want to be aware.
At each point, we’ll take three conscious breaths. It’s not about deep breaths or specific breath work; just consciously inhale and exhale three times at each point. You’ll feel all the benefits of the clearing. When you integrate these little practices into your life, you’ll notice a big difference. It’s all about the process.
Alright, if you’re ready, we’ll begin.
First, take your two fingers (middle and pointer) on both sides. Rub gently under your collarbone, on the soft area. Take three breaths here with your eyes open. This is all about knowing your truth.
Next, place your right hand behind your ear, where eyeglasses sit, and your left hand on your belly button. Don’t massage—just place your fingers there. Take three breaths. This point is about communicating your truth.
Now, switch it: Right hand on the belly button, left hand behind the other ear. This is about being guided by your higher self.
For the next point, place your thumb between your eyebrows (third eye) and expand your palm over the top of your head (crown). You can turn your head slightly for comfort. Keep your right hand on the belly button. Take three breaths here. This is about feeling your truth.
Now, switch hands again: Left hand on the belly button, right hand thumb between the eyebrows, palm over the head. Take three breaths. This is about seeing your truth.
If your eyes are trying to close, it might be because you’re not looking. If that happens, just repeat the process. Sitting with yourself for 5-10 minutes a day will help you empower this clearing.
The last point: Place your two fingers on the crown (top of your head), which is your connection to your higher self and to the Divine. Place your left hand on your belly button and take three breaths here. This is all about accepting your truth.
Finally, flip again: Right fingers on the belly button, left fingers on the crown. This is about letting go of the old story and allowing your new truth, your new reality, to flow in.
And that’s it. This is a process to help you see, feel, and open yourself to your new truth and what you’re going to achieve.
I don’t like to use the word “trying.” As Yoda says, “Do or do not; there is no try.” We all have so many accomplishments that we overlook because we think they’re too small or insignificant. But celebrate every little thing! Celebrate the fact that you got out of bed even when you didn’t feel like it. It takes strength to do what you need to do, even when things feel hard.
So always be grateful to yourself. Celebrate yourself as the high achiever that you are because that’s why you’re here—growing and learning. We’re not perfect, but we can strive for our own version of perfection—what makes us feel good.
I love doing this exercise every day because it helps clear the path for a fresh start. If you want to do this in the mornings, it’s incredibly helpful. It allows your energy to flow in a way that supports your growth journey.
Odiva Vasell: (11:35)
Fantastic.
Berenice Brito: (11:38)
Good, good, good. And just a little thing: if you did yawn throughout this, if you felt that, it’s good. That means it’s the clearing. Your body does that when it’s releasing things. Yawning, or sometimes you have to rush to the bathroom to go pee. It’s all your body releasing. Some people sometimes have a tear that comes down—that’s all released. That’s your body letting go of things, and that’s always positive for you. Don’t judge yourself. Everything that you do, if you’re doing it with the intention of doing it, that’s good. However it comes out, yes.
Odiva Vasell: (12:29)
Thank you. This is a beautiful session. Everyone, I’m sure, can receive a lot of this, a lot of your energy, because you have such a powerful and beautiful energy. You are the Aurora that’s behind you. You are it, and you’re transmitting that to us. Thank you. And you have a second treat for us today.
Berenice Brito: (13:00)
I do! So the next thing is, I am a hypnotherapist as well, and a lot of what I do is based on the word. Like I said in the other session, I am a lover of the written word. I love words. And that’s why sometimes I’ll correct myself because something will come out and I’ll be like, “Wait, that is not perfect, that is not the way I want it to be.” So I’ll retract it and I’ll say it the way I want it to come out. Because what we say matters. What we say to ourselves matters.
On the last session, I spoke a little about the conscious and the unconscious mind. The conscious mind is you at any given day, moving forward, doing what you decide to do. You’re it. It’s the mind that sets your goals. Now, your goal-getter is your unconscious. It’s that 90% of you that is driving all your behaviors, your emotions, your actions, your thoughts. And that unconscious mind does not know what is true and what is made up. And that’s why hypnosis works so effectively, because we pass the barrier between the conscious and the unconscious mind. We talk directly with the unconscious mind and give positive suggestions. We help people resolve issues very fast because we’re bypassing that conscious control and affecting exactly what guides the behaviors. That’s why hypnosis is amazing to lose weight, amazing to cure insomnia, amazing for sexual energy. I use it for increasing your sexual energy and increasing your connection to self because it starts guiding how you, as a whole, act. Because, like I said last session, we have four parts: our mind, our heart, and our soul. The connection of these three affects our physical reality. Our physical body shows up in the world. That’s why, by changing our mindset, we can impact our bodies. We can impact the way we do life.
So, I’m going to take you for a little experiment of what a hypnosis session is like. The difference is, when you’re doing hypnosis, you have all the guidance into going into that deep, deep relaxation state. So this is just more the effect of it, okay? Alright, so close your eyes. Take a deep breath, pull a little bit more in and hold. Let go. This is a physiological sigh, for those who don’t know. This is amazing at getting you out of flight or fight mode and into the parasympathetic state. So we’re going to do it again. Two inhalations…
(Sound in the background)
I do apologize for my little one.
Odiva Vasell: (17:11)
It’s okay, no, don’t apologize. This is life, ladies. This is life. So go ahead.
Berenice Brito: (17:22)
I do apologize. I have a six-year-old, and even though he’s really good, it happens.
Odiva Vasell: (17:28)
This is real life, ladies, so you might be doing your exercise or meditation, and six-year-olds can come in.
Berenice Brito: (17:38)
Yeah, but we just…
Odiva Vasell: (17:40)
No judgment, let’s continue.
Berenice Brito: (17:43)
So we can go back to it. Okay, so going back to the physiological side: it’s just two inhalations, you have to do that pause, and then pull a bit more, hold, exhale. One more time: hold and exhale. Now see yourself at your house, and it’s a day that your house looks beautiful. It’s all cleaned up, it’s organized, and someone went shopping. So when you get to your kitchen, you can see different fruits, and you get the smells, and you can perceive all the different odors in the air. You look in your fruit basket or wherever you put your fruits, and there is a beautiful, juicy-looking lemon. For some reason, you feel compelled to try that lemon because it looks so yellow, it looks so yummy. You just start feeling that excitement, and you want to try it. So you get a knife, you got a plate, you put the lemon down, you take your knife to it, you cut it in half, and you bring that juicy, beautiful-looking lemon to your mouth and you suck on it. Was it tangy? Did you get that? ‘Cause lemon has that, right? Did you feel it? That’s how hypnosis works—just by talking, just by experiencing the word, we can affect how your body perceives it. Your body thought that you’re really sucking on a lemon! (Laughter) I love it.
I have many other techniques. Another technique that I love teaching, and that I think is very easy and great for taking you out of the sympathetic, since I started talking about the breathing, is Hakalau. Hakalau is something that has been around for centuries, and it comes from Hawaii—from the tribes in Hawaii. It’s about putting your eyeballs looking up, as up as you can, making it as if you’re almost trying to look into your eyebrows. And that is another technique that helps you go from the sympathetic activation—being in that fight-or-flight mode—or even some people feel it as the “fawn mode,” and they just close down because they don’t get activated. They slow down, but it’s because they are not connecting with the way their coping mechanism works. That’s a protection. That’s why some people, when you get very mad and you’re in an argument, they just shut down. That is just a coping mechanism, and that’s another style of fight-or-flight mode. So, Hakalau is amazing. It helps a lot to get out of it. I’m all about physical, mental, emotional health, and I do all techniques to help you as a whole, right? It’s all about whole wellness.
Empowerment through Self-Acceptance and Body Positivity
Let me share a little bit about me. As I said on the last session, three years ago, I was not at a good place in my life, and I started having panic attacks, which was something that I had never had before. I had about four episodes within a year. Nowadays, I don’t have panic attacks anymore. One time, a couple of months ago, I started one. I started feeling one trying to come up. I don’t even know why, because I was not in a moment that I consciously thought was stressful. But still, the panic attack came up, or it started showing up. I get my heart very fast, my breathing goes up, and my hands start shaking, so I know that my body is not in a good place. Right? I start feeling the physical symptoms. So when that happened, I just put myself in Hakalau. I started looking up, up, up as if I’m looking almost to my eyebrows. A few conscious breaths, Hakalau, and with doing that, and the breathing that I just taught, which is the hold and let go, I controlled my body. I was able to talk through what exactly I was feeling. And I’m not saying that this is effective to 100% of people that are in panic mode because it depends a lot on what stage you’re at in that panic mode. If the whole reaction in your body has been activated, it does take longer for your body to get out of it. But if you’re feeling the start of it, you can interrupt it the same way that you can interrupt negative thoughts when they start coming up. Like, “Oh, I’m not feeling good today. I feel fat, I feel bloated, my period is coming.” I’m like, “No, stop.” Just cut it, and consciously decide to not think that. You can change it all. Right? My period is coming, I know that some things are going to change that affect me, that are not my favorite things. But you know what? I know that in three or five days, it will be gone, I’ll be back to normal. I will have experienced life in a different way. Let’s see what I can learn from this stage. Maybe this time I can figure out things that will help me better than they did before. Whatever you think, whatever you can reframe—you don’t have to say, “Oh, my God, my period’s going to be amazing,” because it’s right.
Odiva Vasell: (25:39)
Positive thinking, yeah.
Berenice Brito: (25:41)
Exactly.
Odiva Vasell: (25:42)
That’s bringing the experience so that you can kind of bring your body into that place of acceptance and peacefulness rather than bringing your own anxiety level up, which will affect your body, of course. Yeah, wow, yes.
Berenice Brito: (26:03)
Exactly, exactly that. But a lot of people have the misconception that thinking positively is like, “Oh, rainbows and unicorns,” and it’s not that we don’t live with rainbows and unicorns, you know, all the time. So, you can interrupt, you can redirect the thought, but it has to be in a way that is congruent with yourself. It’s congruent with what you think. You’re not going to say in a moment that is a painful moment, “Oh my God, I feel amazing.” There is no… it’s not about that. It’s not about lying to yourself. It’s about seeing it through different perspectives.
Odiva Vasell: (26:48)
Yes. How can we do that for sex? Especially, as we talked about before, we said—I said session, I mistakenly said session, it was an interview. As we said before in the last interview, if you have negative energy towards sex as the act of with another person, and that person may orgasm and you may not, if you have negative energy around that, how do you reframe it to a place where you start to feel excited about it? You start to reboost your libido after a long time not having it?
Berenice Brito: (27:39)
So, it’s a process, right? But it always starts with the mind. It starts with the awareness of, “Okay, I’ve been doing things this way, and that’s not helping me. That’s not getting me where I want, so I want to change that.” And we start the process of changing. After the sexual act is completed, if you have felt that you were overlooked, that your partner didn’t care for your pleasure as much as they did for their own, or that you, in a way, were taken advantage of because you’re there, you’re doing your part, but it was not about you, it was just about your partner, that makes you feel very… that makes you feel bad about yourself. And then you can use the mindset too, but it is much more effective if, first, before the session, you have more conversations with your partner about what is it that you want, what is it that you need. It’s not about blaming your partner of “You don’t know how to please me.” It’s about, “Okay, what we’ve been doing recently is not really working for me. Can we do things different to see if I can get more? Because I do enjoy being with you, I do want to be with you, and I want to really experience that.” So, can we maybe add this or add that? Whatever it is that works with you, right? But like we said, the conversation, the communication… sex for women starts much before you get on the bed. It’s about your partner following through with their promises. It’s about feeling loved. It’s about feeling respected. It’s about feeling like your partner is actually your partner, and it’s not a one-way street, right? So, that opens you up to being in a different place to start the sexual act. But if during the sexual act your mind takes flight—which does happen, it happens to all of us—and sometimes it takes flight to, “Oh my God, I forgot to get the milk,” or it might go to, “I just saw that I gained a couple of pounds and, oh my God, my body is probably looking worse, and what is he going to think about it? And I know that he’s not enjoying it as much as when we started because I am older now, my body has changed,” and you go into that emotional roller coaster of negative things that just add up. When the first… when you start going into that path, if you catch it, “Oh wait, this is… wait, this is… no, this is just taking me from the moment. I don’t need to think about this right now.” So, you caught it right then, you change it, and you’re like, “You know, yes, my body might not be the best that it has ever been. It might have changed, but you know what? He’s still well, right? Like he’s still there for you. He still feels excited to be there for you. He is not minding those two pounds that you got. He’s not minding that dip that you got in your booty now. He’s not looking at that. He’s looking at the whole person that’s in front of him, and it’s the person that he cares for.” When you start seeing more of that side and you understand that that line of thought is not who you are, but it’s just a part of you, you can put that aside. Maybe address it later, maybe address it with a friend, maybe address it with a coach, but you don’t need to deal with that at that moment. At that moment, what you want—you want to enjoy, right? Focus back on enjoying. It’s like, “Oh, okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, all that is there, but I don’t want to listen to that. I want to feel this.” Ooh, okay, his hand is right there. Oh wait, yeah, I can feel him. Well, my legs feel so warm. His temperature close to me. Oh my God, this smells… at this moment. Oh, put music on, have something in the background. Music is amazing because then you can just focus on that. The more you put your senses into the experience, into the sexual experience, the more you can expand within it, and more things you have to catch your attention when you start going that way. So, you can always readdress, you can always refocus. That’s the word. Sorry, I wasn’t… and be…
Odiva Vasell: (33:23)
As you spoke about in the last interview, being present. Yes. Yes.
B: (33:30)
I’m not saying that you cannot worry, but you can always put the worry for later. You can always leave that.
Overcoming Limiting Beliefs and Taboo Around Sexuality
Odiva Vasell: (33:37)
It’s a great, brilliant idea—the five senses. So, music, the sounds, feeling warmth, and pleasure, seeing… what you’re seeing. What else? Hearing, seeing, smelling, tasting… I’m forgetting something.
Berenice Brito: (34:00)
Touch.
Odiva Vasell: (34:02)
Touch, of course. Very important one. And this also can apply to bringing about our own libido with ourselves.
Berenice Brito: (34:14)
Yes, yes. A lot of us have so many taboos around our own sexuality that we are always in the dark, that we don’t want to be naked in the light. So, you know, I always say that if you’re having trouble with your body, how it looks now, first of all, that problem shouldn’t be because society says that women should look a certain way or that your lashes should be done a certain way, your hair should… No, it’s with you. If you feel that that works for you, that works for you. That’s why women can feel comfortable at whatever stage and whatever way their body shows up if that’s what speaks to them and if they accept themselves. But if you’re having trouble accepting the way that you’re looking right now and you might be in the process of changing it, actively changing it, or you might be thinking about getting into the process of changing it, you can always do some mirror work, which is just looking. You don’t need to get used to being looked at by someone else. Why don’t you get used to looking at yourself first? There are different ways. Some women, like I brought up last time, some women have never seen how they look down there. They have an idea. They saw it in school, they saw it in books, but they haven’t actually taken a peek. Taking a peek, use a handheld mirror. Look just so you know your own anatomy, so you know your own body. Another thing that helps is being in front of a long full-length mirror. Don’t do it on a day that you’re not feeling good. If you’re feeling very bad before starting that, don’t do that at that moment. Push it up for a moment when you’re feeling more balanced, more secure, or at least not so judgmental against yourself. Because you don’t need to face things headfirst in a way that hurts you. You can take small steps. Just do as much as you’re comfortable. Maybe the first week you’re just going to look at the mirror with clothes on. And then when you’re looking at your mirror, don’t focus on the points that you don’t like about yourself. Look for the things that you appreciate. I always say, for me, the thing that I always see the most when I look at myself in the mirror are my eyes. They’re tiny, I know that they are small, but I love them, and I think they shine, and I think people can see my soul through my eyes. So, I think my eyes are beautifully expressive, and I love that about them. So, even when I didn’t like the way I looked, I still appreciated my eyes because they show the essence of me. So, you know what? Start on the first week just looking at yourself in the mirror and focusing on your eyes, focusing on your own soul. Feel what people can see when they look at you, instead of looking for the aspects of you that you’re not pleased with. Start finding the things that you appreciate about yourself. Everything else you can change. Like I said, you can be in your process, or you can be thinking about starting your process, but there’s a lot of things that you can do to change your appearance, right? That shouldn’t be a determinant for you liking and appreciating yourself. And you always have good things. You always have beauty. There’s so many different kinds of beauty. Thank God. Imagine if we all looked the same. [Laughter] And one thing that, for me, was very freeing in that sense… But I’m not saying that you’ve got to believe right away just because I’m saying it, but maybe through your process, you’re going to eventually get there. Which is, you should never compare yourself to other people. Comparing yourself is always going to make you feel lacking. It’s always going to make you feel less than what you are because, first of all, if you’re comparing yourself to things that you see on social media, that is not real life, right? People always show up differently when they have an audience. So you don’t really see them when they have their hair up, they’re cleaning the house, they’re all in home clothes, and they just got up. Maybe they haven’t even brushed their teeth. That’s not what you see, so that’s not what you’re comparing yourself to. But sometimes you’re comparing yourself when you’re in that moment, you’re comparing yourself to someone that is all primed up and all looking good, and of course you’re going to feel less. The best comparison for me is comparing you to yourself. Comparing yourself to older versions of you. Now, when we do that, a lot of times it’s like, “Baby, really? I’m older now, you think I’m going to like myself more now?” It’s different because we cannot expect to have a 20-year-old body when we are 40. I am 42. I don’t look it, right? Like, I know that I look very young. My whole family, I have the genetics for it. My mom is 78. She looks 60. It’s a blessing. But anyways, I don’t have the same energy that I had when I was 20. When I’m in the throes of passion, on top of my boyfriend, I do, but my knees crack. Well, I do not have a 20-year-old body, right? I could let that stop me, but I don’t. Because time passes, but at the same time that our bodies don’t look the best for a 20-year-old, because we’re not 20, they can look the best for a 40-year-old. They can look the best for a 50-year-old. And the way you feel inside matters way more than anything else. My dad is 87. He just turned 87 this month. And one thing that he has taught me throughout my life is to always believe, to always know that you have power over your mind. You have power over the way you think. When I was 13 years old—no, sorry, when I was 11 years old, he got in a car accident and he broke both his legs. And he was already in his 60s, so he was almost 60. So, he never fully healed from it. He still walks funny, and it’s been almost 30 years. Still, I remember my dad in the hospital bed with both legs broken really badly. And people would come to visit him, and he’s smiling. And they’re like, “I’m translating because he’s in Brazil,” but they would say, “But Paulo, how can you be smiling? You’re in the hospital, both your legs are broken.” He’s like, “Yeah, my legs are broken, my mind is not.” Oh, and he’s 87. His mind is still intact.
Odiva Vasell: (43:34)
Powerful. So powerful.
Berenice Brito: (43:36)
Age is important, but age is just a number. There is the balance of it, right? So yes, the best way is for you, when you can, not to compare yourself to other people and just compare yourself to you, still understanding the changes that come with age, that are changes that you might even retard, that you might even slow down, but you can never stop time, right? Life is different.
Odiva Vasell: (44:19)
I’d like to add to that. Recognizing, getting on this journey, this self-awareness journey, as we both agreed, is so important, and recognizing that you are deserving, at any age, you are deserving of all life has to offer in enjoyment, joy, and pleasure. It doesn’t have to stop because of any superficial things that have changed about you. You are so special. Yeah.
Berenice Brito: (44:58)
You are a magnificent, infinite being living an earthly experience. You’re so much more than your body, so much more. And the more you connect to that part of you, to that expansive, to that amazing divine part, the more aligned you feel with yourself, with your body. Your body shows up better. Energy influences you immensely, and all of it is interconnected. So, the way you think, the way you feel, the way you present yourself, the way your body shows up, all of that is part of a big mesh of the tapestry of life.
Odiva Vasell: (45:53)
Wow. And we will just let our audience take a breath and absorb all of this. Thank you. Thank you for joining us. We give you gratitude, and we receive all of your graciousness that you’ve endowed on us today.
Berenice Brito: (46:19)
Thank you. Thank you. I really do appreciate it, and it has been awesome being here. I am really on a mission to help women get over the taboos, get over the traumas, get over the hiding, get over the dissatisfaction, and start really enjoying life, because life can be amazing even when it’s not perfect.
Odiva Vasell: (46:52)
Berenice Brito at BB Wellness Weaver, can’t wait to connect. See you again. Thank you.
Berenice Brito: (47:01)
It will be my pleasure. Thank you.
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Conclusion
In the end, this conversation reminds us that true self-acceptance, pleasure, and well-being come from within. By embracing the changes that come with time, reconnecting with our bodies, and allowing ourselves to experience joy without guilt, we unlock a deeper sense of fulfillment. You are more than just your physical form—you are an infinite being deserving of love, pleasure, and confidence at any stage of life. Let this be your reminder to honor yourself, embrace your journey, and step into your power unapologetically.